Crushing on a TV wedding

I don’t know how many of you watch Parenthood on NBC, but I am totally crushing on Jasmine and Crosby’s backyard wedding. NBC released a “Braverman Photo Album” today and I am loving the pics!

 
 


The Happy Couple


Ceremony


The Kiss


1st Dance


Love the happiness in this shot


Family shot

And of course, what’s a great wedding without some amazing detail shots.


Lighting


Mmm, looks delish


Alcohol


Perfectly wrapped and coordinated gifts, just like real life


Cocktail table and reception set up

 
 

*All Images from here

I am loving this photo album, the details, the emotions, the style, it all seems perfect to me.

Are you as in love with this wedding as I am? Have you been inspired by a fictional wedding on TV?

  

Two Best Men are Better Than One

I read this post today on Beantown Bride and it reminded me that I haven’t discussed Mr. Fenway’s groomsmen situation yet. We decided early on that we wanted a small bridal party. My decision was easy, my sister, his sister, done and done. His decision was slightly more complicated.

Mr. Fenway has a lot of close friends and he worries a lot about what other people are thinking and wants to make sure to do his best not to offend anyone (it’s one of the things I love best about him). Since we had decided to do a smallish bridal party, he knew that he would have to make some choices and that only his closest friends would be standing up next to him.

Mr. Fenway has two friends that he has remained closer to than others, and he knew he couldn’t decide between them who would be his “best man,” so he is having both act as co-best men (as you could probably guess from the title of this post). I never for a second considered this an inconvenience or worried about how it would look if I had a maid of honor and he had two best men, but I can see how it could be logistically challenging, especially if you had a larger bridal party or a more formal wedding. For our rather laid-back affair though, it is perfect.

I think it will be interesting to see how the Bachelor party/weekend pans out as one of his best men is a true planner and the other doesn’t like to plan things at all (often booking flights for events at the very last second) so seeing the two of them come up with something together should be interesting.

Plus, there will be two best-men speeches at the wedding now- and since those are one of my favorite parts of the reception I couldn’t be happier. They are both stand up guys and they, along with our officiant who is also serving as a groomsman, will make great groomsmen for Mr. Fenway.

 

Mr. Fenway and his co-bestmen at a Red Sox Game

Are you having multiple best-men/maid(ron)s of honor, etc.?

Cohabitation and Wedding Issues

Mr. Fenway and I live together. You’ve probably figured that out by now. My parents were totally supportive of this (in fact they wondered why we didn’t move in together when my lease was up after Mr. Fenway and I had been dating for a mere 3 months). Mr. Fenway’s parents are a bit more conservative (Ok, a lot more conservative, which is definitely not a bad thing, just a different thing from my parents) but they eventually accepted the fact that we were going to move in together after about an year and half of dating and never told us anything about not approving.  I think every couple is different, and that living together before marriage is a really personal choice and obviously is not for everyone.

That said, in my opinion, living together was definitely a good idea for us. It has helped us to work out our roles in the relationship a lot better. Even when Mr. Fenway was visiting me most every night when I lived on my own, it was different. He didn’t help with the trash because it wasn’t “his place,” and other minor things like that. When we first moved together, Mr. Fenway moved in to the one bedroom I had been renting by myself. I think this was harder than if we had moved someplace new. I had my things there and fought against giving anything up. After all, my stuff was “nicer” than Mr. Fenway’s (at least according to me, probably not according to an objective observer). Ok, honestly, I still have problems looking at things as “ours” and not “mine” or “his.” (Plates and pots and pans are mine, tools are mine, TV and dresser in bedroom are his, etc.). But now we know each other’s strengths and weaknesses and luckily they seem to complement each other. We also work hard to keep things “fair” and divvy up our daily tasks.  For example I like to cook so I prepare dinners and Mr. Fenway handles doing the dishes and any clean up. He will also frequently keep me company while I am prepping dinner (and will help prep some parts of dinner too sometimes) so it’s nice to have that time to talk.

When it comes to the wedding, and particularly wedding planning, this relationship that we have developed over the past four years has really come in handy. We are able to divide up tasks based on our interests and already have a system in place for discussions on responsibility.  Wedding planning has been more stressful than we imagined it would be at times, and having the communication system and sharing of responsibilities already in place has helped us out tremendously.  I don’t think we would have already had this system in place if we had not been living together and learned how to discuss things and communicate well what was and was not working for us.

I can’t say it has been perfect and there haven’t been arguments about who is doing more, but I think it is so much better than if we didn’t have that base. Living together has helped us to know what we do well together and what we are better at apart, and those skills have been directly transferable to our wedding planning.

Did you find that any skills you acquired before getting engaged helped you with the wedding planning process?

Trends I love: Bunting

I am totally on board the Bunting bandwagon.

I even included it in our Save the date design as you might recall,

Personal pic, obviously

Here are some more pretty pictures of bunting that I am loving right now.

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I so NEED this for our bar set up


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Bunting and a center paper decoration- totally love!

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Bunting, Christmas lights and rafters- so pretty!

I know this is super trendy and brides today are supposed to be all original and everything, but I love this. I am planning ways to incorporate bunting into our wedding.

Have you jumped on any wedding “trends”?

The Wheels on the Bus…

In pricing out various ways to get our guests from the hotel to the venue, a 15 minute drive, I was astonished at the costs of various options from “traditional” transportation companies. I am sure the options were fairly priced, but a coach bus with individual TVs seemed like overkill for us (and our measly transportation budget).

Luckily, we found a school bus rental company that was willing to work with us (more difficult than I initially imaged, but we have a contract in place now so I am feeling better about the situation).

I know I am not the first bride to go the school bus route, so I rounded up some fun inspiration images.


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Love the “Just Married” Sign


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Bunting- so cute!


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Adorable

And my favorite:


from my friend’s wedding last fall
Photo taken by Stacey Hedman

Are you using a school bus for your wedding transportation?

Hotel Arrangements- to block or not to block?

We knew that having our wedding during THE tourist month for that part of the state would make fining accommodations challenging for our guests. As such, we started the hotel blocking process early. Like really early. Like August of 2011 for our October 2012 wedding early. And it is a good thing we did, because even with a 14 month head start, we only managed to get one hotel to block off 30 rooms for us and our 180 person guest list. As of March, less than 10 rooms remain in this block so our guests have been very good about taking our advice and booking early.

The hotel we blocked rooms at was very responsive and accommodating. Another hotel I was working with was neither of these things, and was a part of why our Save the Dates went out later than I intended.

I made up an “Accommodations” card that went out with our Save the Dates indicating the hotel where we blocked the rooms as well as directing guests to our website for additional options.


Accommodation Card attached to Save the date

Of course, we couldn’t just provide one hotel, so I research a number of other hotels in the immediate area and put links and contact information on our website, along with additional information that I hope will prove helpful like warnings for added travel time and possible construction.


Screen shot from our website

Now it is out of our hands (though I must admit I nearly forgot to book our own room at the discounted hotel block rate- glad I remembered before they were all gone!).

Was blocking your hotels an easier or harder process than you imagined? How did you let your guests know about your room blocks (if you had one) or other hotels in the area?